Improve Your Body Image, Improve Your Sex Life

With the growing influence of the media on the population, focus on idealized body image is at an all-time high.


 As the media has become increasingly sexualized, a clear relationship between body image and sexuality has suddenly emerged.

Though some people are comfortable with their own body image, there are many who feel so self-conscious that they avoid sex altogether.  In a recent study, it was found that 52 percent of women have avoided or postponed sex, even when they were in the mood, because they were too self-conscious about the way their body looked to their partner.  It was also found that how a woman feels about her body has more of an impact on her sex life than does menopause.

Many misconceptions exist that only those that look like those portrayed in the media can have good sex.  Regardless of how you look (or how you think you should look), it should not prevent you from having a healthy and satisfying sex life.

How can you tell if you are too worried about your body image and it is affecting your sex life? Ask yourself some of the following questions:

  • Do you turn off the lights during sex to hide your body from your partner?

  • Are you too worried about what your body looks like to enjoy sex?

  • Do you only have sex in certain positions with your partner to avoid having certain parts of your body touched or seen?

  • Do you think you would enjoy sex more if you lost weight?

  • During sex, are you constantly thinking about certain parts of your body that you are uncomfortable with?

  • Do you think your body is not good enough for your partner?

  • Do you and your partner fight about how often and the variety of sex you are having?

  • Do you think your partner would rather be having sex with someone else who has a different body type?

If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions, the good news is that you can stop worrying about your body and have a vibrant and enjoyable sex life.


1. Communication

  • Talk to your partner about how you are feeling about your body. If you do have anxieties in the bedroom, talking about them openly will help you develop a more honest relationship that will lead to intimacy and better sex.

​2.  Exercise

  • Start a moderate exercise routine and good diet. This will make you feel healthy and increase your self-esteem. Do not exercise or diet only for the purpose of weight loss, you may just get discouraged and quit. Also, do not exercise too much. One hour of exercise each day should provide a healthy workout. Exercise will make you feel better about yourself and your body, leading to better sex.

3. Think About Yourself in a Positive Light

  • Avoid focusing on your perceived flaws.  Make a list of all the things you love about your body and have a close friend make a similar list about you. You may find some of the things you believed were flaws are cherished and admired by others.

Hopefully the above tips can help reduce the anxiety you are feeling about your sex life. It is possible to have intimacy without constantly putting yourself down, and without altering your body.  Learning new sex techniques that reduce or eliminate body anxiety can create confidence and lead to better sex.  Remember, even though you are having sex with someone else, it is a very personal experience, and if you do not feel good about yourself, you will not enjoy the sex to its full potential.


[ Source –  The Huffington Post / Mail Online / Journal of Sex Research ]

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