Whether you are comfortable incorporating the male G-Spot into your sex life or not, the male prostate (P-Spot) is a highly sensitive area of the reproductive system that can be the source of great pleasure.
But, as pleasurable as the male prostate can be, it can also be a problematic area of the body that commonly has medical issues.
What is the Prostate?
The male prostate is a gland which is surrounded by the bladder, rectum, urethra, and seminal vesicle. The prostate houses the seminal glands and is powered by testosterone which is created in the testicles and the adrenal gland.
The prostate is the gateway between the ductus deferens and the urethra, where ejaculate leaves the body. The muscles located in the prostate assist in pushing the semen out with great force during ejaculation.
As mentioned in the classic college film Road Trip, milking the prostate is a real thing– meaning that it is quite possible to achieve an orgasm solely through massaging or rubbing on the prostate. Stimulation is most commonly done through indirect probing through the rectal insertion.
Women have a prostate as well, which are called the Skene’s gland, and is located adjacent to the female G-Spot (that’s located in the urethra, not the anus). Like the female G-Spot, a curved body part (like a hooked finger) or object provides the most direct contact through the male G-Spot through the thin and delicate rectal lining.
Less direct contact with the prostate can be achieved through a light pressing on the perineum (the area located in between the testicles and the anus), which becomes more sensitive while the penis is erect.
Pleasurable Prostate Stimulation:
Anal sex and anal play can be really enjoyable for both men and women– but men have the advantage of having their G-Spot located in their anus.
No matter what your sexual preference is, stimulating the prostate can lead to a powerful and intense orgasm. An increasing amount of demand has been growing for high quality G-Spot stimulators for men, and we have many options at our sister site, Spicy Gear. For those who are unfamiliar with pegging, this term refers to wearing a strap on, such as the Gina Lynn Pink Harness in order to perform anal penetration.
Safety and Anal Toys
Anal toys usually have a different kind of base than vaginal toys do, which is called a flared base, and some like the Silicone P.E. Vibrator and the LELO BOB even have finger grips for added safety. This is to keep the toy from becoming lost inside the rectum. Be extremely careful if you use a toy which does not have one or both of these features, cause when things get slippery, it’s more difficult to maintain a tight grip.
Of course, what is located inside of the rectum is waste material, so bacteria is abundant. For optimal safety, it is always best to use condoms, like a Trustex Lubricated on porous toys or toys with seams, like the Provoke. Check out how to know if your toy is porous on our sister site’s blog!
Condoms can also serve another purpose during anal play. Instead of buying multiple toys for prostate stimulation, textured condoms like the studded LifeStyles THRYLL can add a new element to an old toy, and make anal play with the same toy new and exciting again. Even if you use a condom, washing your toy a high quality anti-bacterial toy cleaner, like Pjur Med Clean, is also advised.
Wearing latex gloves during manual stimulation is also advised, because open wounds can allow this bacteria to get into the bloodstream. If the person performing the manual sex has long nails, I suggest putting a small cotton ball in the fingertips of the gloves, which will prevent scraping of the fragile anal lining.
The Importance of Anal Lube
We’ve already compiled a list of the ‘Five Best Condoms for Anal,’ but what about the 5 best lubes for anal? The anus is not self lubricating like the vagina and mouths, so using specially designed anal lube is essential to a safe and enjoyable anal experience.
- Pjur Backdoor Relaxing Anal Glide (Silicone-Based)
- Wet Uranus (Silicone-Based)
- Wet Uranus (Water-Based)
- Pjur Analyse Me! Anal Glide (Water-Based)
- Cherry Scented Anal Lube (Water-Based)
Anal play requires foreplay and patience, and make even take a few attempts before things get going. A good rule of thumb is to start small and to work your way up. If prostate stimulation is something you are interested in, maintain open communication throughout and be sure to speak up if any pain arises. If you feel like you need a little help, there are desensitizing creams like China Anal Balm and Anal Ease, but bear in mind that they eliminate pain, but they also can take away pleasurable sensations in the prostate.
Additionally, take note that silicone lubes are not intended for use with silicone-based toys, as they can damage your beloved toy, and as always, oil-based lubes will cause the condom on your toy to break. The easiest, most effective and least-messy way to lube up before prostate play is with a Lube Shooter, which comes with three disposable tips for multiple uses.
The prostate can also be a source of pain in cases when medical issues arise. Here are the three most common prostate conditions.
This mysterious and usually quite uncomfortable condition has no set medical cure and can cause chronic pain, sexual dysfunction and the inability to achieve an erection. Sometimes, this condition is caused by a bacterial infection which can be treated with antibiotics, but up to 95% of cases have no set-in-stone treatment or cure, with medication for the condition ranging from antidepressants to antihistamines.
It was once rumored that vasectomies increased the likelihood of developing prostate cancer, but this has since been disproven. The current estimate is that 3% of cancer deaths are caused by prostate cancer. Men over the age of 50 are advised to have an annual prostate exam, especially if there is a family history of prostate cancer.
Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia
Most commonly found in older men, this condition affects the ability to urinate (hesitation) and the frequency of urination. Prostatic hyperplasia is caused by a swelling of the prostate, which in turn blocks the urethra. In extreme cases, a stent can be surgically placed in the prostate to allow urine to pass through, or the prostate can be completely removed to prevent future blockage.