Depression and Sex Drive

While some people fall into depression due to a lack of sex, others find that being depressed decreases their sex drive, which results in them having less frequent or less enjoyable sex. Now that’s depressing.



What is Depression?


SSRIs became popularized in the 90s.

In the late 1990’s, anti-depressant commercials overtook the airways and were deemed to be a savior for the millions of depressed people across American. One such pill called Prozac became so prominent and widely accepted, even dogs were getting prescriptions in order to stave off anxiety and depression.

The rise in prescriptions for mental illnesses grew during this time because of the invention of once-a-day SSRI (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor) pills. With a trip to the doctor, everyone from Jim Carrey to your next door neighbor was taking these pills in order to feel better about themselves and the world.

Depression is thought to be caused from improper channels in the brain. Neurotransmitters with should communicate effectively with each other fail to do so, resulting in depression. SSRI medication enhances the signals sent by neurotransmitters, reducing the oftentimes debilitating symptoms of depression like suicidal thoughts and the inability to enjoy life.

However, depression isn’t always caused by internal events and it can also be caused from less than ideal outside situations at work, school or at home. This differs from PCT, a medical condition that causes a very temporary post-orgasmic depression.

Side Effects and Sex Drive


Talk to your doctor if depression has caused a decrease in sex drive.

Personally, I was on one such prescription drug called Celexa for many years to treat panic disorder. This is a SSRI pill which is also used to treat depression. Like many others on SSRIs, I found that food became more of a priority than sex, which had previously been my focus and motivation. Losing the urgency of my sex drive, in turn, made me depressed, like I had lost an old and dear friend: lust.

And, to make matters worse, I was also taking hormonal birth control and antihistamines at the time. All three of these prescription medicines are notorious for reducing sex drive and sexual pleasure. I have known many previously fully function men who developed erectile dysfunction and women who had the inability to produce natural lubrication or achieve an orgasm, while on these meds.

While using some extra Wet Platinum with your Durex Love condom can be really fun, and it isn’t the end of the world to use more lube, being unable to climax or get an erection is a really big deal, especially if you already have intimacy, body or self-esteem issues. It can also be detrimental to your partner’s feelings and state of mind.

Needless to say, I have selected to stay off of SSRIs since the early 2000s. If you feel as though SSRIs are negatively affecting your sex drive or your partner’s sex drive, talk to a doctor. They may be able to adjust the dose or switch you to another medicine that will have a lesser impact on your sex drive.

Solution: Embrace the Dark

Acceptance, having a sense of humor about yourself and being educated can be the best foes in the fight against depression. It’s best to remember that like PCT, depression doesn’t always last forever, even if it feels like it will at the time. Being patient and understanding of your own journey is essential to the process of overcoming it, and having a supportive and communicative partner can be a big help.

Read up about to how to ‘Revive a Stale Bedroom‘ if you are having trouble getting started on the road to more frequent or fulfilling sex with your partner. Or, if you are single or in a long distance relationship, learn how to go on a sexy play date with your adult toy. Love yourself, learn what really turns you on and move onwards.

Conversely, another coping mechanism is to embrace the dark side of depression by fully incorporating it into your sex life in a positive way. Use some super sexy LifeStyles Black Label condoms or a deliciously gothic Black Velvet Vibrator to visually incorporate your sadness into your sex life.

It may seem silly at first, but facing your depression in this way can be sincerely refreshing. It can make the depths of despair less lonesome and more tolerable because it can help to create a positive association with the darkness. Put up some black out curtains, light a black pillar candle and sport some sexy black lingerie that makes you feel your best. Sometimes, a pair thigh high fishnet stockings are the best SSRI in the world.

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