Avoid These Unsexy Cliches This Valentine’s Day

Super stressed about Valentine’s Day this year? Want to give your boo the perfect thank-you for loving you? Don’t freak out!



Valentine’s Day is supposed to be about celebrating love, not stress. Even if it’s not your first Valentine’s Day with your love bear, don’t put the pressure on yourself (or your partner) to over-achieve.

Here are some big no-nos to remember so you’ll stay sane this Valentine’s Day.



1. Jump the gun. Just because you’re going on a date with someone doesn’t mean you’re going to get laid, even if it’s your long-term partner. Different people have different expectations about Valentine’s Day, and sometimes those expectations don’t include sex. If that’s something you want for sure and you aren’t sure about your partner, make sure to let them know ahead of time. Otherwise, they might feel obligated— and that does not make a healthy relationship.

2. Make it too much about the romance. Just because people on TV show up for their Valentine’s dates with giant teddy bears and boxes of chocolate for their sweetheart doesn’t mean that’s what your partner wants. Or alternatively, don’t expect that from your partner if it’s not their gift-giving style (or what you want). Enjoy your relationship for what it is instead of holding it up to the standards of what other relationships are.


3. Over-Plan. It can be a lot of fun to plan out all the sexy ins-and-outs for a sexy evening with your main squeeze. But sometimes, we get so wrapped up in the fantasy, we go a little overboard. Don’t freak if everything doesn’t go according to plan. Relax and enjoy your time with your partner. Let yourself be in the moment instead of worrying what’s going to happen next.

4. Forget the lube. It doesn’t matter how old you are or what your body is like. A little extra lube will always let you go the extra mile. The only time lube isn’t sexy is when there’s not enough of it. Plus, they do make travel-sized lubes which can fit in a wallet or purse– like WET Water-Based Individual Use Foils.

5. Slip in something extra. Not used to anal sex? Don’t feel inspired just because it’s Valentine’s Day to give your partner something extra– or take in something extra yourself. Anal sex can be super painful if you aren’t prepared for it, and it can even cause damage to your precious butthole. It’s not something that’s going to happen in one night. Work up for the big reveal on Valentine’s Day with anal toys (like our super skinny Joy Vibe) and lots and lots of silicone lube.

6. Fall for the Ribbed For Her Pleasure trick. Picking out condoms for the big night out (or in)? It can be tempting to pick out ones that have feminine labeling so your special lady thinks that you grabbed ‘em just for her. But the truth is that not all women like ribbed condoms. Some can’t even feel them! Pick a condom that you know is going to fit you– not just in size, but has the same sort of lube you like, features you appreciate, and won’t bug her vaginal chemistry. She’ll know you’re thinking of her when you pick a condom that works the way it’s supposed to work. Check out our Condom Buying Guide to figure out what’s best for you.


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